Friday, January 17, 2020

What To Read: January New Releases

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So I have been trying to finish a post for days and days and days now.

It's a post with a new book recommendation for each month of this year.

ALL the new 2020 books. Yay!

Thing is, I am having the hardest time finding books to wrap the year up with. Dang it.

But I'm having no trouble at all finding January releases.

No trouble at all, y'all.

So I've created a list of January books I'm planning on getting my hands on.

And I think you should, too.

* As always, all books throughout this post include affiliate links to ensure you have a quick and easy shopping experience. If you use these links I'll make a few pennies off of your purchase - so thanks! *


New Books Coming Out in January 2020


January 6

reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations, Dear Edward, Ann Napolitano


January 7

Mr. Nobody, Catherine Steadman, reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations


January 14

Followers, Megan Angelo, reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations


January 14

reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations, Little Gods, Meng Jin


January 14

reading, Kindle, Goodreads, nonfiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations, Say Her Name, Zetta Elliott, Love is Wise, Black Lives Matter


January 14

The Better Liar, Tanen Jones, reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations


January 21

American Dirt, Jeanine Cummins, reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations


January 21

reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations, A Long Petal of the Sea, Isabel Allende


January 21

reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations, The Majesties, Tiffany Tsao


January 28

reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations, Don't Read the Comments, Eric Smith, young adult


And because December new releases could always use a little bit of love, here are a few you might want to pick up right away!


reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, books, new releases, reading recommendations, The Playground, Jane Shemilt, December 2019 book



Regretting You, Colleen Hoover, reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, December 2019 books, new releases, reading recommendations, books



reading, Kindle, Goodreads, fiction, January 2020 books, new releases, reading recommendations, Karma Brown, Recipe for a Perfect Wife


Let me know if you have read any of these. And be sure to stop back if you decide to give any of these titles a try. I'd love to hear what you think. And if you're looking for more recommendations, check out some of these lists:



Thursday, January 9, 2020

The Echo of What Was.



I came up with the title of this post a few weeks ago.

Before the new year began.

I was talking to a friend and we were discussing certain aspects of our lives.

We spoke of history. Or, I should say, her-story.

We spoke of today. The current day. The days that pass by so quickly, and yet, so not.

We spoke of the combination of the two and how they make us who we are.

Honestly, maybe we didn't speak of all of that.

We talk daily and I tell her things, and she tells me things, and so it doesn't matter if it all happened in that same conversation - or if it was scattered over the course of hundreds of messages.

It happened.

I said these words.

The Echo of What Was.

I had no idea how much I would need them.

I had no idea how much more they would resonate within the coming week.

Because seriously, if they didn't hit me in the gut, knock the wind out of me and - take hold all at the same exact moment.

It's hard to describe.

What's that Friends quote - it's Rachel - she's talking about Ross and Julie.

Isn't that just kick you in the crotch spit on your neck fantastic?

Doesn't it feel, sometimes, like life just is that exact way?

We move forward.

Make changes.

See things.

And yet.

We're surrounded, on occasion.

By the echo of what was.

And that echo is so very strong.

That echo resonates beyond what any actual sound can or will.

That echo.

Damn it all if it isn't just the most powerful thing you can experience.

And all it takes is one sentence.

One question.

One instance.

All it takes is one person.

One shift.

One touch - or lack of.

To find yourself surrounded.

By change.

By questions.

By broken memories.

All it takes is one breath.

One inhale.

One exhale.

All it takes is one smile.

One laugh.

One sob.

To find yourself surrounded.

By all the things.

And yet.

None.

All it takes is closing your eyes.

For one second.

One minute.

One moment.

To find yourself surrounded.

By the echo.

Of what was.

And is no more.


Thursday, December 19, 2019

Feel All The Things.

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Good day, internet friends, and happy holidays.

'Tis the season for love, laughter, baking, drinking, eating, happiness! And, of course, decorating alllll the things.

But it is also the season for pain. Grief. Loss. Reminders.

And. Of course. Tears.

Allow yourself these tears.

Whether you realize it or not, you need them.

Tears are a catharsis of sorts for the body.

I'm not a doctor and I don't play one on TV, but I know that a good cry is healing for us all.

My mental health experience reminds me that crying is 110% permitted whenever you need it.

And my own personal experience - as someone who cries often - both, silently and loudly, when needed, shows that it is such a welcome release you don't acknowledge until after you are done.

Scientifically speaking, tears release the stress hormone cortisol, which is something we need to release - so as to ensure that the build up in our bodies does not become too much for us to handle. Psych Central indicates that if we do not release this hormone, our bodies may experience medical issues/ailments, along with a drastic shift or impact on our mood.

Yes, we often hate to cry in public, or in the presence of people who might feel uncomfortable or make US feel uncomfortable. Not everyone cries as freely as I do, I'm aware.

But we're allowed. And we shouldn't be embarrassed. And we shouldn't hide our tears.

Tears come when we're sad, sure, but they can also come when we're happy.

Recently someone did a favor for me, offered in kindness, and it completely made my day-night-week, and I cried. Softly. Quietly. Without sound. But I felt it and allowed myself to.

And I felt better for it.

You might be thinking, well, you're a therapist, of course you expect people to cry freely - it's practically in your job description.

Sure. Sure. It's a part of therapy. It's the joke everyone makes about the requirement of tissues in the therapist's office and the red-faced client walking out with their head down so as not to be seen in the waiting area.

But it's so much more than that.

Therapy is a place where you will find that you permit yourself to feel all the things.

IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER:

This will happen IF AND ONLY IF you have a therapist you trust.

Sure. You may cry even if you're unsure of your therapist. But the likelihood of you moving past that initial bout of tears will be slim if you don't trust them. Allow yourself the time you need to determine your comfort level with the practitioner you have chosen. Find a new one if you need. Ask me for help in finding one. I'll help you.

Now - back to feeling all the things for one final moment - you may find that in therapy when you're feeling all the things, whether openly sharing or just caught up in your own thoughts, that you think you're going to cry.

Go ahead.

It's okay.

If we're sitting across from you we'll pass you the tissues.

If we're on the phone we'll listen silently, acknowledging that you've opened up your heart.

If we're having a virtual session we'll nod, remind you we see you, let you know that we're there.

And if you're not in therapy, or if you are and you're carrying your emotions around with you outside of your sessions? (Listen, all of us do, we don't resolve and release every.single.thing in therapy - your therapist is human and they know this is not possible, truly.) Let yourself feel. Process those feelings. Or don't. Just let them out when you need to. Seriously.

Go ahead.

Cry.

Laugh.

Scream.

Sit in silence.

Feel.

All.

The.

Things.

'Tis the season.

And we're allowed to be happy, sad, overjoyed, and in pain, all at once.


If you are struggling with your emotions, grief, loss, or pain this holiday season (or ANY day at all), or if you are in crisis, please reach out to 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for help. Someone will be there to answer your call. You do not have to struggle through on your own. Permit yourself to share with someone who can listen without judging. Allow yourself to safely feel all the things. Know that you are not alone.


Tuesday, December 3, 2019

Holiday Dessert Recipe Round Up!

It's never too early to plan your holiday desserts. I've got a round-up for you that you're going to want to look through and pick your future favorites from.

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Sunday, December 1, 2019

Chocolate Rolo Surprise Cookies



It's that time of year again! Time for the annual Houseful of Cookies blog hop!!

What more could you want than a list of incredible recipes for you to enjoy and make for your loved ones this holiday season?

Nothing, right? I know, me, neither.

Houseful of Cookies is an annual, virtual cookie hop, hosted by Natasha Nicholes of Houseful of Nicholes. She really likes playing on the "Houseful" theme when there is more than one of something, and since there's more than one cookie ... here we are.

Each year Natasha gathers a bunch of us together from the internet to bake up our epic cookie creations and share them with all of you. It's a fun time, and we all have dealt with butter, flour, and a number of flavors to bring you these goodies every year.

I'm going to start you off with my recipe for this year's virtual cookie hop. I'm offering up one of the simplest of recipes for y'all.