I supposedly learned in Kindergarten.
Well, so far my daughter has learned:
* To stay on green and not go to yellow, orange or red.
* It will take four blues to get to purple, and she is not even remotely close at this time.
* Little girls will call her ugly, stupid and make fun of her clothes, shoes and other things.
* These behaviors will make me want to head up to the school and tell off these little brats for talking like this to my beautiful child.
* The child has learned how to flip someone off. Mainly me.
I'll set the scene. It's bedtime. She's practically under the covers. I hear her rustling and she says, "Mommy, do you know what this means?" and up comes her middle finger.
What the WHA?
Who showed you that, I asked? So-and-so, the little friend from the bus. You shouldn't do that, it's not very nice. You don't do that to people because it isn't nice and because if you do you could get into a lot of trouble.
"Okay, Mommy, I won't do this ..." (I JUST TOLD YOU NOT TO DO THAT!!!)
Explanation continued, with words like, trouble, not nice, mean, we don't do that. These words were correlated in her little head to be 'like when you tell someone they are ugly and that isn't nice,' so what's a mom to do?
Yes, I said. That's exactly right.
We don't use the word stupid in our house and now I get to worry about other little kids calling her ugly or stupid? Whatever, dudes. This is not acceptable.
I need to put these wee ones in their place. Okay, fine, they just need to stop it. It's not cool. AT ALL.
Then my husband calls me this morning after drop-off to tell me she told him that yesterday on the way home she was crying on the bus because *A* (her little middle-fingered-friend) didn't sit with her. They always sit together.
And so it begins.
What's next - I wonder? Any ideas?
All I can say is that if my child wants to go to school with her hair done in multi-braided randomness, I, for one, am going to LET her. She's FIVE. She deserves to express herself as best she can - within reason - and if some little goober is going to make fun of her I am going to support her through it and teach her that it ISN'T NICE to talk to people that way and we should respect our differences.
Saying someone is ugly or stupid is wrong. It's not a nice way to treat our friends.
Now look ... isn't she beautiful?
I THINK SO.