Thursday, March 4, 2010

Ah, what a perfect time for this post!

Since I'm lazy I'm going to copy a post I posted here on the blog I write for at my mommies' group:

Confessions of a Slacker ...

I recently started reading a book that I am just loving. And I decided I HAD to share with women everywhere. It's called
Confessions of a Slacker Wife, by Muffy Mead-Ferro. And I love her. I'm not even done with the book yet, but I am anxiously awaiting my copy of Confessions of a Slacker Mom, as well.

Basically what I have read so far reminds me that we, as women, are HUMAN. We're not required to do anything but eat, drink and sleep to LIVE, and yet we take on so many responsibilities. We make SO many things priority and often forget about ourselves in the mix of it all.

And we tend to prepare like you wouldn't believe. The best paragraph I have read so far in this book basically tells me that when I'm having people over that it's totally okay to just let things go. Sweep them under the rug, so to speak. Because my true friends won't give a hoot (yes, I did just say hoot!) whether or not there are toys on the floor, ready-made-dip to be eaten, or pre-sliced cheese and salami! And you know what? It might actually help THEM to feel better about themselves and their lives, and help them know that I consider them true friends. Why is that, you ask? Well, when is the last time you hid a dust bunny from a true friend? Or did anything more than say, 'Sorry for the mess, it's a regular day here!' and add a huge eyeroll about being the mother of a 3-year-old, or two 3-year-olds, or however many you deal with at home on a day to day basis!

So, let yourself go! And don't regret it! Because if you don't let it go you won't enjoy that party, that playdate, that time to bond with anyone but yourself and that 3-year-old in person. And man, that'd be the saddest thing of all!

Check out her books for better written words of wisdom without paraphrasing. But hey, it's 8:30AM, I don't drink coffee, so that's the best I could do. But we're friends, right? So it's OK. ;)

**Since this post I have finished both, this book and her other one. I love them. I love her, I truly, honestly, completely think it's great stuff to read. So hop to it!


  1. Will add these to my ever-growing list. I just got "Loving Frank" for a book club in a few weeks, and I'm still reading Blessing of a Skinned Knee (slowly, on about page 120). Which I love, too.

    Thanks for the recs!

  2. Sounds like one I need to read!

  3. Both of those books have been on my 'to read' list for awhile. I need to get to reading them- but I slack! Tee Hee!

    One thing I've found is that people think they have to be or more to the point APPEAR perfect or close to it in order for others to like them. In reality, people who SEEM too perfect usually make others uncomfortable and they tend to like them LESS than they would if they'd just relax and be who they are- whatever that means for the individual.

  4. I really needed this, as I start to panic about how am I going to ever get the house shiny enough for Jake's birthday party next Saturday!

    By throwing everything in my bedroom, that's how!

    Thank you, a thousand times over!

  5. It sounds like a good read. When I was younger I was really bad about putting fun things off until I got my work done and that just never happens.

  6. I gotta check these books out! I've really been working on my inner spaz for the last year b/c I always think everything has to be PERFECT. I'm learning to let the little things go - like toys everywhere. Life is so much better when I do. It's a struggle though. LOL.

  7. great words of advise for us all!

  8. One of the people I admire most is my son's wife, Kate. She has 4 kids and simply does not trip about housework. It's not her priority. Her house can be a mess, but her family is laughing and happy and healthy! She's gorgeous and every of them are darned perfect in my view!

  9. Great post, I am getting that book, for sure! you got a new follower!! Thanks for stopping by my bloggity blog!

  10. First off, Andrea, you are officially a Southerner because yes, you said "hoot"!

    Secondly (and WAY more importantly!), thank you for this. I need to be reminded that it's okay to just be me where I am, where my house is, where my life is. When I vist your blog, I feel like I visit your home and no, I wouldn't mind if you had a family of dust bunnies, grape jelly on your couch, and/or permanent pink milk stains on your ridiculously light carpet -- oh, wait! That's me!

    Love you girl!

    PS I am totally checking out those books.

  11. I think I'll get this at the library!!!

  12. I added it to my goodreads!

    What a great concept and something I've found true in my life recently!


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